A New Saga: Releasing Old Attachments to Make Room for New Connections
Last week, I took some action that I learned from a year long study of psychology, things I have synthesized and applied, and a a book that revisits Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs via a reimagining completed by Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph. D called “Transcend - The New Science of Self-Actualization”.
Sparing you the details, I didn’t just turn the page in my personal life. No. I ended the final chapter in my old journey and I opened a whole new book. I’ve been doing some serious housecleaning, not only in my environment but also in my attachments, connections, and expectations of myself. This process has been all about self-coaching, letting go, and making space for what’s next.
First up, I spent some time releasing relationships I’d romanticized but that weren’t aligned with reality. We all have those connections where we’ve held onto what could be rather than what is. Removing these attachments wasn’t easy, but it was necessary to clear the slate and free myself for what’s coming. I also want to be clear that in releasing old things, I am not barring them from returning to me. Should old connections return, they will be treated as new connections to a new “Mario”.
Then I took a deeper look at connections that didn’t feel mutually fulfilling—where my imagination had colored in more than the actual relationship. I’ve kept the ones where I feel there’s true friendship, where I’ve made an impact, or where there’s mutual care. For those who are still here, thank you for being part of this new story.
I’ve also had to take a hard look at the kind of coaching work I do. One-on-one coaching is meaningful, but financially, it won’t sustain me unless I either increase my rates or lean into group sessions. It’s a choice I’m considering as I move forward, and it’s added to this week’s “reset” energy.
And yet the week came /with benefits because letting go has opened up space for so much:
• Stronger Bonds – Letting go of old ties has given me more room to be present for those closest to me. I can feel the difference already, and I’m excited to lean into that.
• New, Reciprocal Connections – I’m energized to start building connections that are truly mutual and where I’m nourished just as much as I give.
• A Fresh Perspective on Nurturing Relationships – I’m ready to pour into the friendships that feel right and let go of those that don’t. It’s all about aligning with people who see and value each other.
• Sharing My Talents with Intention – I want to share my skills in ways that attract the people who really want to be here and grow together. Building this new “tribe” feels empowering.
• Financial Balance – Time to refocus and make things happen on the business side! I’ve got plans, and I’m ready to make them a reality.
To my friends who might have felt my distance: Please know it wasn’t personal. I needed this time to recalibrate. If you know me, you know I always come back better. And if that doesn’t sit well, I respect that too! There’s no hard feelings. As I said in a previous post, I coach from the trenches so it doesn’t feel right for me to give advice on becoming authentic that I don’t live out on a daily basis.
In the end, I’m hopeful this new book will show up as a deeper, brighter version of what came before. And I’m glad to have you here with me.
